“In the face of so much evidence that life hurts and is fraught with adversity on all fronts, having a willingness to feel good and have life go well all the time is genuinely a radical act.”
– Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap
I’ve been laid up with a sore back since Monday. On Sunday I walked, did yoga and danced. I felt strong, fit and blessed. On Monday I did a new yoga pose my SI Joint (sacroiliac) decided it didn’t like. And wham. Down and out. I’ve shared before about how I used to put a limit on my happiness. Now I get to work on the upper limit problem of how fit my body can be.
I first came upon the concept of upper limit problems while reading a book called, “The Big Leap: Conquer Your Fear and Take Life to the Next Level”, by Gay Hendricks. When we hit our upper limits around wealth, happiness, success, love, receiving, creativity, health (and more) – when we go past our comfort zone – upper limit problems can come along to bring us back into the safety zone where we feel in control.
These upper limit problems show up unconsciously as fear, self-doubt, guilt, the feeling of not deserving what you have, fear of success, blaming others, negative thoughts, and the victim/pain body. Sometimes when one area of our life is going well, another suffers. You’re physically fit, but emotionally unstable. You have loving relationships, but your bank account is empty. You have money and optimal health, but no friends.
According to the book there are four hidden barriers we (unknowingly) use to sabotage ourselves from reaching our full potential:
Feeling fundamentally flawed – fear that something is wrong with you.
Disloyalty and abandonment – fear of leaving behind those we love in order to grow.
Believing more success brings a bigger burden – fear of becoming a burden.
Crime of outshining – fear of making others look bad.
Once you’re aware of your Upper Limit Problems you can take the necessary steps to break through them. The goal is to reach the Zone of Genius, a place where no hidden barriers hold us back from having it all.
I look forward to meeting you in the Zone of Genius…